There was this beautiful woman, who wanted to get married, but she
wanted a very pious husband, so she said that she’ll marry the man who
recites the whole Quran every single day, fasts for the whole year and
stays awake and worships Allah all throughout the night.
She was
a very beautiful woman, and a lot of suitors wanted to marry her, but
they knew they couldn’t fulfil the conditions she set. Until this one
man stepped forward and said he could fulfil them. So the Imam got both
of them married.
After the first night of the marriage, the wife
sees that the husband doesn’t recite the whole of the Quran, nor does
he fast, nor does he stay awake in the worship of Allah, she decided to
let it roll on for a few weeks to see if there were any changes, there
weren’t, so she filed a complaint and asked for a divorce.
They
are both taken in front of the judge, and the judge asked, ‘What were
the conditions of the marriage?’ the man replied ‘They were for me to
recite the whole Quran daily, keep fast for the whole year and to
worship Allah all throughout the night.’
The Judge asked, ‘ did you fulfil them? The man calmly answered, ‘…yes.’
The judge answers, ‘you lie, your wife has said that you don’t, that’s why she’s asking for a divorce’.
But
the man insisted that he had fulfilled the conditions, so the judge
asked, ‘did you recite the full Quran everyday?’ The man answered yes.
The Judge, baffled asked, ‘how? How can you do that?’ The man coolly
answered, ‘I recite Surah Ikhlas three times a day and according to
Prophet Muhammad (saw), reciting Surah Ikhlas three times is equivalent
to reciting the whole Quran.’ The Judge was intrigued, so he asked,
‘how did you fast the whole year?’ The man answered, ‘ I fasted for the
whole month of Ramadan, then kept another six fasts in the month of
Shawwal, according to Prophet Muhammad (saw), keeping all of the fast
of Ramadan then keeping six fasts in the month of Shawwal, is as if you
have fasted for the whole year.’
The Judge remained silent, he
couldn’t give a reply saying the man was wrong, so finally he asked, ‘
how did you stay awake all night and worship Allah, when your wife saw
you sleeping?’ The Judge thought the man wouldn’t be able to answer
this one, but the man, cool as a cucumber answered, ‘I prayed Salatul
Isha with jamaat, then the next day prayed Salatul Fajr with jamaat,
according to Prophet Muhammad (saw), the one who prays Salatul Isha and
Salatul Fajr with jamaat, it is as if he had stayed up all night
worshipping Allah.’
The Judge sat there looking at the man; the final verdict was about to be released…
He said to the man and his wife, ‘…go, just go, there is nothing wrong with this marriage’…
*Sigh* Sometimes, whatever we do does not feel like enough.
Zain
@DriftingDeadly - True, but then again... we're the ones putting the effort. The people who don't think it's enough are blind. I know that it hurts when the people you work for are so close to you... but in that case, what matters is our effort, and Allah Ta'ala to be happy with us. - I learned that the hard way...
Just do your best always. In the end, you won't look back and feel that YOU didn't do enough. Screw everyone else.
@ Najla & DriftingDeadly,
Ok. The fact of the matter is, relationships should not be bonded by mere love for each others personal or physical traits. Nor by what they have done, or what their personality is like. You should not make extra effort simply because you WANT something in return or expect something in return, the other person might not be capable of it in this dunya, but what about the Akhira? Maybe He/She will be the one interceding for you? Allahu Alam, so why break that bond?
The first thing we should understand is that there is no love higher than love for Allah (Swt) and the highest level of love is loving someone for the SAKE OF ALLAH (SWT). We should make our intentions to make relationships for the SAKE of Allah (Swt) only. If two people can do that, then whatever shortcomings they have, they will fear Allah (swt) and forgive each other and forget, because they will know that the bond of brotherhood in Islam is what holds Islam together. There are many examples of this from the life of the Prophet (pbuh) and AFTER. This can be the same for even our spouses. What better than to love your spouse for the Sake of Allah, while letting them know, that if there was anything higher than it, then we would.
What good is making an attempt and it not working out between two people, will Allah (swt) still be happy with it? SOMEONE is getting hurt. It is easier to get revenge on someone, but it is harder to ask Allah (swt) to forgive those that have harmed/hurt us. So maybe before getting into relationships, be it friendship, marital, etc, we should clean our intentions for the Sake of Allah (Swt) to Love them for His (swt)'s sake, which is the highest degree no?
Just My 2 Cents.
@tariqbinsleepin - Yeah I understand everything you said. But we're not talking about doing what we have to do for the people we love expecting anything in return. We're talking about giving.. not taking. And we want the people we love to know that we want to give... we want to sacrifice for them. Because we love them and we love for them what we love for ourselves.
What you said was beautiful, however. Loving for the sake of Allah makes us feel blessed. May Allah guide us to always do everything for His sake, and His sake only.
JazakaAllah for your 2 cents! =D
p.s. "The fact of the matter is, relationships should not be bonded by mere love for each others personal or physical traits.Nor by what they have done, or what their personality is like."
Okay, I agree that we, as sinful humans, have no right to judge anyone...
But I don't agree that we should befriend anyone regardless how they are as people. We should remember our beloved Muhammad (saw)'s advice when it comes to choosing friends, na? And spouses of course. For a person is upon the deen of his companion... How should we not consider what they are as people? But then at times... we have the ability to remind the people we come across... we have the ability to bring them back to whats right... We have the ability to help the for the sake of Allah. So it depends.
That's what I took from what you said, I'm sorry if I misunderstood.
@Najla08
Ameen to your dua.
You said it very well too. I should have explained a little better. I didn't mean we should befriend just any one What I meant was, when you do get into a relationship, Friendly or Marital. After that initial stage, often people try to get more attached to the persons personality as the relationship develops, they get BLINDED by the persons character, beauty, personality. I mean, I agree personality and traits should match for a couple , friendly or martial, should somewhat be compatible for that relationship to really work. And when you mentioned above "True, but then again... we're the ones putting the effort. The people who don't think it's enough are blind." <-- that is true as well, it does seem to happen, love needs to works both way, be it for Allah (swt), your mother, your spouse. When your in a relationship, you have to sacrifice a lot of things, both parties do, theres no way one person will change to match the other person. And if we show the initiative then insha'ALlah the other will too, because something attracted you to that other person to begin with.
Once again like Allah (Swt) says (in one of my favorite Ayahs :D), "what is goodness save aught goodness?" In a different way, the Ayah also could also mean that every action has a reaction, love should result in love and hate would result in hate no? Maybe those people begin to take the other person as granted, allahu alem. But from what you said, why should we even care if the other person is not returning anything? At least for me, I've learned not to EXPECT too much, if you do it for Allah (swt) then your heart will always feel content, because even if you don't get that satisfaction, which you get from the other party, you will know your reward is with Allah (swt). Its the hardest thing to do.
And your absolutely right, we should chose the people we hang around carefully. What I meant was actually having friends and then falling into the trap of getting too too comfortable for their sake. And your right, we do have an obligation to help our Muslim brothers and sister. Even if they are committing a sin, or even if your NOT compatible, like you said we should try to help them.
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Amazing. I want a hubby like this niggaaaaaa! lol
*Sigh*
Sometimes, whatever we do does not feel like enough.
Zain
@DriftingDeadly - True, but then again... we're the ones putting the effort. The people who don't think it's enough are blind. I know that it hurts when the people you work for are so close to you... but in that case, what matters is our effort, and Allah Ta'ala to be happy with us. - I learned that the hard way...
Just do your best always. In the end, you won't look back and feel that YOU didn't do enough. Screw everyone else.
@ Najla & DriftingDeadly,
Ok. The fact of the matter is, relationships should not be bonded by mere love for each others personal or physical traits. Nor by what they have done, or what their personality is like. You should not make extra effort simply because you WANT something in return or expect something in return, the other person might not be capable of it in this dunya, but what about the Akhira? Maybe He/She will be the one interceding for you? Allahu Alam, so why break that bond?
The first thing we should understand is that there is no love higher than love for Allah (Swt) and the highest level of love is loving someone for the SAKE OF ALLAH (SWT). We should make our intentions to make relationships for the SAKE of Allah (Swt) only. If two people can do that, then whatever shortcomings they have, they will fear Allah (swt) and forgive each other and forget, because they will know that the bond of brotherhood in Islam is what holds Islam together. There are many examples of this from the life of the Prophet (pbuh) and AFTER. This can be the same for even our spouses. What better than to love your spouse for the Sake of Allah, while letting them know, that if there was anything higher than it, then we would.
What good is making an attempt and it not working out between two people, will Allah (swt) still be happy with it? SOMEONE is getting hurt. It is easier to get revenge on someone, but it is harder to ask Allah (swt) to forgive those that have harmed/hurt us. So maybe before getting into relationships, be it friendship, marital, etc, we should clean our intentions for the Sake of Allah (Swt) to Love them for His (swt)'s sake, which is the highest degree no?
Just My 2 Cents.
@tariqbinsleepin - Yeah I understand everything you said. But we're not talking about doing what we have to do for the people we love expecting anything in return. We're talking about giving.. not taking. And we want the people we love to know that we want to give... we want to sacrifice for them. Because we love them and we love for them what we love for ourselves.
What you said was beautiful, however. Loving for the sake of Allah makes us feel blessed. May Allah guide us to always do everything for His sake, and His sake only.
JazakaAllah for your 2 cents! =D
p.s. "The fact of the matter is, relationships should not be bonded by mere love for each others personal or physical traits. Nor by what they have done, or what their personality is like."
Okay, I agree that we, as sinful humans, have no right to judge anyone...
But I don't agree that we should befriend anyone regardless how they are as people. We should remember our beloved Muhammad (saw)'s advice when it comes to choosing friends, na? And spouses of course. For a person is upon the deen of his companion... How should we not consider what they are as people? But then at times... we have the ability to remind the people we come across... we have the ability to bring them back to whats right... We have the ability to help the for the sake of Allah. So it depends.
That's what I took from what you said, I'm sorry if I misunderstood.
@Najla08
Ameen to your dua.
You said it very well too. I should have explained a little better. I didn't mean we should befriend just any one What I meant was, when you do get into a relationship, Friendly or Marital. After that initial stage, often people try to get more attached to the persons personality as the relationship develops, they get BLINDED by the persons character, beauty, personality. I mean, I agree personality and traits should match for a couple , friendly or martial, should somewhat be compatible for that relationship to really work. And when you mentioned above "True, but then again... we're the ones putting the effort. The people who don't think it's enough are blind." <-- that is true as well, it does seem to happen, love needs to works both way, be it for Allah (swt), your mother, your spouse. When your in a relationship, you have to sacrifice a lot of things, both parties do, theres no way one person will change to match the other person. And if we show the initiative then insha'ALlah the other will too, because something attracted you to that other person to begin with.
Once again like Allah (Swt) says (in one of my favorite Ayahs :D), "what is goodness save aught goodness?" In a different way, the Ayah also could also mean that every action has a reaction, love should result in love and hate would result in hate no? Maybe those people begin to take the other person as granted, allahu alem. But from what you said, why should we even care if the other person is not returning anything? At least for me, I've learned not to EXPECT too much, if you do it for Allah (swt) then your heart will always feel content, because even if you don't get that satisfaction, which you get from the other party, you will know your reward is with Allah (swt). Its the hardest thing to do.
And your absolutely right, we should chose the people we hang around carefully. What I meant was actually having friends and then falling into the trap of getting too too comfortable for their sake. And your right, we do have an obligation to help our Muslim brothers and sister. Even if they are committing a sin, or even if your NOT compatible, like you said we should try to help them.